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  • Is It Possible To Make Friends Online? | My Friendships Past & Present

    Coat | H&M

    Dress | Mango

    Blouse | Primark

    Headband | Mango

    Bag | SammyDress

    Boots | SammyDress

    I think everyone could sit for hours talking about their friendships past and present, the friends that you used to have but realised they weren’t good for you; friends you had that you drifted apart from but wish you still had contact with. The friends that are there right beside you every step of your life, that you can act like a complete fool in front of and also cry into their shoulder in times of need.

    However something that may not always crop up in everyone’s stories about friendships is The Online Friend.

    Friends formed over the internet.

    Is it really possible to meet a true friend online?

    Over the years I have had a variety of different experiences with friends. I have one true best friend, hey Sophie! This girl I grew up with; playing shops in our younger years; struggled through the terrible teens with; spent copious hours chatting away about our troubles with; and a lifetime of laughing about things that only we would find funny.

    It is true that it is very hard to find a real friendship like this, a friend that is loyal and not conditional. I feel incredibly lucky to have a solid friend who is more like a sister and who I know I can count on for the rest of my life to be there. I also have more childhood friends, university  friends, old work pals and of course family that I can always count on too.

    However not all friendships in my life have been this way. Some friendships that I thought were going to be life-long struggled to continue due to this ‘conditional’ element. These friendships seemed fun at the time until I realised that there had to be a reason ‘other than being myself’, for these people to be my friend.

    It is experiences like this that make you question whether you can really form a true friendship online? 

    Why would someone you have never met before want to be your friend? Surely there would have to be something in it for them? A few pictures, captions and conversations via Instagram aren’t much to offer someone as a friend?

    This whole topic is going to seem so odd to so many people, the idea that a stranger on the internet can be classed as a friend. However over the past year that I have been continuously blogging; I have made online friends. Great online friends in fact!

    As someone who blogs, this is a pretty easy way to get chatting to people online. Every day I comment on girls and guys photos; complimenting them on outfits and asking questions. As you continue to do this, you see that certain people reciprocate, and then reciprocate more frequently until you end up chatting almost every day.

    I think it would be pretty hard not to become fond of someone you chat to nearly every day. Right?

    What is fantastic about having online friends is that they will always have the same interests as you. Friendships form more easily when you have similar passions.

    As a huge fan of fashion, I search hashtags on Instagram surrounding fashion and blogging and a whole catalogue almost, of girls who have the same interests as me pop up. It kind of has the same affect as Tinder, in that you can search for people who appeal to you, follow them and then get chatting.

    The blogging industry is just amazing when you sit back and think about it. Then when you are involved in it, you realise just how supportive an industry it is. Everyday so many girls and guys give me the kindest messages of support and comment on my outfits which is amazing. We all praise each other and admire the hard work we are all putting in to create something cool on our small space on the internet.

    What I am trying to say is that it is actually just as easy to find an online friend as a friend found in the more traditional manner. I have spoken to so many girls online this year and actually had the pleasure of meeting up with lots of girls this year that I can now call good friends.

    It is really odd when you meet up because you feel like you already know each other just from seeing their daily content; and you have so much to talk about as your interests are the same. It’s great! When you bring in the question of it being a conditional friendship, sometimes it might be; but generally the condition is on both parts; your friendship is on the condition that you both share your passion with each other, support each other and anything beyond that is a bonus!

    Coat: H&M | Dress: Mango | Blouse: Primark | Headband: Mango | Bag: SammyDress | Boots: SammyDress

    Now this doesn’t have to be exclusive to bloggers. If you are not a blogger it doesn’t mean you can’t make online friends. I have made online friends outside of blogging, but we have similarities; for instance I talk to quite a few girls online who have curly hair or are mixed race.

    That commonality is an instant connection and I have great conversations online and have hit it off when meeting them in person. I myself do not have any local friends who are mixed race or have natural curly hair like myself, so turning to the internet to meet fellow curlies has been amazing! We share favourite hair products and stuff which is brilliant.

    If you have a certain religion, hobby, skill, business, body type, course, profession, or illness even; something you think defines part of your character; then you can definitely make some awesome friends online. Even if you don’t ever meet in person, it is refreshing to have those conversations with like-minded people or people that have similar experiences to you; and that is something we can be extremely grateful for in this modern age.

    So is it possible to make friends online?

    Yes it certainly is!

    Outfit Chat |

    This outfit is my absolute favourite right now! This is teaming all of my favourite elements together for winter, from 70s with the dress, to Chloe with the bag, tomboy vibes juxtaposed with feminine touches; this outfit is the dream! Let’s just talk about these boots quickly. If you are a fan of Louis Vuitton, then these boots are the perfect dupe for the LV Limitless boots! They are so super affordable and amazing quality; I am enjoying wearing them with tailored trousers to add that masculine touch. Perfect! Then this check coat is a new purchase of mine also, I advise getting it two sizes up like I have to get that perfect oversized silhouette! All items are linked on my virtual wardrobe page that you can access at the top of my blog!

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    8 Comments

    1. 14th December 2017 / 21:14

      Love doesn’t this post Hun and I totally agree you can make friends anywhere including online. So glad I met you and can’t wait to grab that coffee soon xx

    2. 14th December 2017 / 21:15

      Love this post Hun and I totally agree you can make friends anywhere including online. So glad I met you girl and can’t wait to grab that coffee soon x x

      • charnellegardiner
        15th December 2017 / 13:25

        Thank you Tash, so pleased you read it. You’ve been a great pal 🙂 and yes we will make it happen! xxx

    3. 14th December 2017 / 22:18

      This outfit is so cute and I love the headband! I agree with you, it’s definitely possible to make friends online, especially when you get to know each other through a common interest. It’s always weird meeting people in real life that you follow online because you already know so much about them but I think that helps make things less awkward because its like you already know each other x

      • charnellegardiner
        15th December 2017 / 13:27

        Aw thank you Gemm! Yes you are so right, but like you say its such an ice breaker when you’ve already had a glimse into someone’s life! Thank you for beig so supportive on my blog, love reading your comments 🙂 xxx

    4. 15th December 2017 / 13:43

      Definitely agree with you. The internet can have its bad parts but people tend to forget how much it does bring us together and help us find people with similar interests. ultimately its down to the individuals, the internet is just the beginning, its the effort to build or maintain friendships that is all down to us no matter how we find each other! – x

    5. 19th December 2017 / 13:06

      Some of the most important people in my life are based on online connections, including my husband.

    6. Lucía
      30th December 2017 / 20:20

      Hi! I’ve just discovered you and I must say that I’m in love with your style! You are really inspiring me to change the way I dress because before knowing you, I never had the motivation to do it, you know? However, I must say that one of the reasons why I don’t make a change it’s because I’ve always been very self-conscious about my height, I’m 1,75 and sometimes I feel like a giant. For example, I love the boots you’re wearing here, but I wouldn’t use them because they’d make me taller… I just wanted to know how tall are you? Because that outfit looks great on you, but I don’t know if they will look the same on me…

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