It has taken me a while to get a new post uploaded on here; partly due to quite a busy start to the year and partly because I really want to push out content that is more curated and fine-tuned.
So if you have clicked onto this post then you are looking to find out why I have said that this year is set to be my best yet; and I don’t want to be one of those click bait bandits so I will let you know now that there is no huge announcement coming your way.
Rather I want to share with you a little insight into my character and share the positive thoughts I have been carrying recently; in the hope that you get to know me a little more, and get inspired to make this year your best as well!
Sound good? Ok let’s carry on.
Looking back on 2017, I had some fantastic times and was lucky enough to go on holiday four times. For that reason 2017 will always be a year full of good memories; but it was also probably my hardest year.
It was a year where I was well and truly stuck in a rut. A big rut that completely consumed my life for the year. I don’t think I have ever felt as lost as I did in 2017.
I made the big decision to return home from London and leave my job in 2016; which was tough! I loved my job and I loved my friends there; but I didn’t see my future in London and therefore I realised my fashion job was going to be worthless experience when I removed myself from the city. There are no fashion head offices near my home town.
So I went with my head instead of my heart; returned home and restarted my life essentially. It is since then that this feeling of being lost consumed my mind. I didn’t know what new avenue to take next.
I was good at my old job; I loved my old job and nothing I was applying for or thinking of doing was quite matching up. I began to sink into a lot of self-doubt. Not self- doubt in my ability to achieve in a new role or self-doubt in my decisions to change career.
Just self-doubt as to whether I was capable of making this new situation actually work out for me.
So even though everyone laughs at how the cheesy ‘New Year, New Me’ mentality kicks in on Jan 1st, it is totally a thing; and I am not ashamed to say I have adopted this positive mind set.
I was literally left in limbo for all of 2017, just freelancing to fill the gap. I felt so stuck in a rut as I previously said and felt like the biggest loser not knowing what to do with myself for the first time in my life. I think it is quite common for people in their mid-20s to feel like this. I knew that as the year drew to an end I needed to settle some ‘big’ decisions and rearrange my thought processes to turn things around for myself.
The biggest thing stopping me getting on was the uncertainty of my future career, so I told myself I just needed to make a decision and run with it. It is important to re-align your thoughts, any decision you make does not have to be final. It’s just a decision for now; and if it doesn’t work out; you can try something different. When you take that approach, decisions feel less scary to make.
I decided that Digital Marketing was where I wanted to be. It was staring me in the face as my blog is so relative; but I just couldn’t see it. Once I made that definitive decision in my mind I cannot tell you how much it helped me relax. It was the first step to getting out of this indecisive rut. I was ready to leave self-doubt in 2017 and get on with my life.
So January came along and I set myself 4 New Years resolutions. I will only be sharing one as funny enough I managed to complete it within the first three weeks of the year. I got a new job in Digital Marketing! I spent the first couple of weeks, re-evaluating my CV and applying for roles; I was so much more productive now that I had a clear focus on what I wanted and it evidently paid off.
I have so much determination to make this year the best one yet and meet all of my goals. I am continuing to work on the remaining new years resolutions and have adopted some new approaches to my life this year which I will share with you guys.
The biggest adjustment I am making is to really push myself in different senses of the word; first being to push myself out of my comfort zone a lot more. I am someone who worrys quite a lot. I am confident in myself and my abilities but I definitely have my anxieties and will shy away from situations that make me feel uncomfortable or nervous.
Pushing myself out of my comfort zone is only going to show me how much more I can achieve when I don’t put my own barriers in the way. I am also going to push myself in terms of my work. This is the year of working harder, especially in regards to my blog. I always have so many ideas and I really want to push myself and bring it all to life as well as working a full-time job. I have a good little thing going on with my online presence already and great engagement and I want to work harder this year and get the following and reach I that I desire. It is up to me to overcome barriers that full-time employment will bring and I am exploring ways to help me balance the two.
This year I want to say Yes more. I want to embrace all opportunities that come my way which feeds back to the whole comfort zone situation. To make this year the best one yet, I plan on saying Yes to things that are going to help me achieve more and make me happy. This goes for smaller things too such as a simple invite for a quick coffee with a friend.
This also leads onto the final thing I am focusing on for the year which is relationships. I have some amazing friends across the UK that I am so incredibly lucky to have. This year ‘life’ will no longer get in the way of me seeing them; friends make me happy and bring a whole other joy to my life so it is important to hang onto those that are important to me.
Also lets quickly chat dating. I have wanted to do a blog post just on this topic as it would be juicy one! So yeah, 2017 was definitely my worst year of dating by far; which too left me feeling a bit lousy but I 100% am going to embrace dating this year. Dating should be fun! Not everyone is going to be your cup of tea; and likewise you are not going to be everyone else’s; and that is only natural. It’s time to swipe away the guys that aren’t worth your time just like you would on tinder and keep scrolling for the right one; but most importantly enjoy the process in-between!
I would love to know if you have made any changes this year or whether you have ever had that period in your life of feeling a bit lost and how you come out the over side!? Thank you so much for taking the time to read!
Photo Credit | Tia Gardiner